What a woman wants

For Valentine’s Day, Ben Jones and Kelsie Bowman are teaming together to show both the men’s and the ladies’ perspective of the perfect date.

Valentine’s Day is well known for creative dates that impress and enchant a significant other. Of course, this can be a challenge for the man in the relationship; creating the perfect night for your one and only may not be as easy as it looks.

Don’t worry guys; you’re in luck. After talking to several young women on Lee’s campus about what their ideal Valentine’s date would be, and, of course, being a lady here at Lee myself, I feel that I have a pretty good idea of what a girl is looking for this Valentine’s Day:

After telling her to dress for an elegant evening, you swing by your lady’s dorm/apartment in the limousine that you rented just for the night. From there, you whisk her away to the hot air balloon awaiting your arrival in Alumni Park.

Once up in the air (you’ve already taken lessons and can fully operate the hot air balloon), you drift to the nearest romantic getaway; Paris would be appropriate. After a candlelit dinner during which you shower flowers and expensive gifts upon her, you ask her to dance in the moonlight (even if there is no music playing). From there, it’s back into the hot air balloon in order to make it back to campus in time for curfew.

Not realistic? Ok, so I’m not being serious. While a date like this might knock any girl off of her feet, let’s be real-we’re in college and I would go so far as to say that the girl of your dreams won’t care if you spend $10 or $1000 as long as you put some well-thought out effort into making her feel special.

It’s about knowing your girl. Does she like to get dolled up or keep it casual? Would she rather have a dozen roses or the newest edition of her favorite book? Does she want a night out on the town or a cozy evening in a coffee shop?

As for the kiss at the end of the night, if this Valentine’s adventure also happens to be your first date, do NOT try to kiss her. Sorry to disappoint, but you’ll be showing her respect and she, in turn, will respect you for controlling yourself.

Now if this is a girl that you’ve been dating for a while and you feel like it may be the right time to lay one on her, be aware of the signals she sends as you lean in. If she reaches for her keys, turns her face away, points to some obscure object off in the distance exclaiming “What’s that!?” or if she coughs loudly as if she is recovering from a bad case of strep throat, my guess would be that she is isn’t ready for the kiss.

On the other hand, if she makes eye contact and smiles, this could mean that you are safe to proceed.

I have full confidence in your ability to woo that wonderful girl that gives you butterflies. In the end, all the advice in the world can’t make up for truly caring and trying your hardest to give her a special night. Good luck!

Read the men’s perspective, here.